Monday, December 31, 2012

Live it, Laugh at it, Love it! 2013 - Go Gentle!!

There is no fortune cookie to ring in this New Year…

As 2012 is finally ending and 2013 is about to come on the stroke of midnight, I have spent some time reflecting.

In all honesty, this has been one of the worst years of my life. There have been so many losses and changes (not all bad) that my heart and mind are having a hard time keeping up.
When I am lying in bed at night (or in the wee hours of the morning) I can either pretend that none of it ever happened, or I relive each moment of it. Last night, I dreamed that my brother was still here…that as part of a medical experiment they were able to bring him back. They had not told us he was still alive until they knew for sure that he was going to make it. In my dream, I went to answer the door and through the peep hole, I saw him. The joy was overwhelming…simply and utterly overwhelming. Then I woke up.  I woke up and wanted only to fall back asleep into that dream, but reality has a twisted way of creeping back in.

I have lost a best friend, my father, my brother, a business that I loved went under, a ministry I have worked with for almost 10 years is undergoing many changes (and I am NOT part of them), I got a new job…I got another new job with in the same college. I work with amazing people all around; have a supportive husband, an incredible mother and three kiddos that mean the world to me, a strong sister-in-law and two beautiful talented nieces.
The blessings are there to be counted. I am trying to focus on the positive, on the happy.
It is just so hard sometimes to lift myself up and put on the rose colored glasses.
This coming year I am sure will bring more changes, but I pray with all my heart no more losses.
I am working on finally getting my degree and at 40 years old…I think I have a direction for my life. (About time, right?!) My oldest son is thriving at college, enjoying playing college ball and continues to touch people with his heart, my middle son blows me away with his personality, brain and sense of humor and my youngest, I am just watching to see where his smarts will take him.  
May your New Year be filled with joy, all your fortune cookies be silly and your hearts be lifted.
Thanks for reading and hopefully growing with me. I can’t promise to be more regular…but I can promise to…
Live, Laugh, Love!
Vanilla Mama


  1. I am sorry for not checking on you. Also I am sorry for every thing you have been through.
    I cannot say that my 2012 was bad but a loved one has gone through a lot, therefore I am hoping that every one has a tender and kind 2013.

    It is nice to have known you through blogging. Now I seem to connect with you because of the way we both lost our dads.

    I know that you are much younger than me, never the less you have enlightened me in a lot of ways. Even after stepping in my sixties, I still think that I can grow and learn.

    Give my love to the Kiddos and regards to every one else:)

  2. Munir, you are an incredible lady! I love following your blog and while I do not get to comment often - yours is one I check in on frequently!
    You are a blessing and a breath of fresh air. Thank you very much for your kind words that soothed my soul today.
    Cybers hugs and lots of love!

  3. What is happening this year? Any updates?

  4. I hope that all is well with you and that you had a very happy mother's day ! Take care


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